Sep 20

It’s Their Journey, Not Your Journey

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The first thing you need to understand is that someone else’s journey is not your journey. We spend so much time wanting what others have and we fail to realize that it may not be the right thing for us. We look at how well things are going for those around us and want the same for our own life. 

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Aug 15

When They Are Not There

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You will be surprised where your support will come from when working towards achieving your goal. Let’s not call it a “dream” any more but a “goal”.  You have been dreaming way to long and now it’s time to put the work in. Your dream is now a goal. A goal is something that you have wrote down and set a date to. Now are you are ready and you go to the people you believe will support you with words of encouragement and share your excitement, but then something happens.

You did not get the reaction you were expecting. What happened? A lot of people get there motivation from those around them. People want to feel the excitement, the positive vibe from those around them because it gives some kind of security. Well here is the  thing, not everyone will understand or share your excitement for you and/or with you. There are multiple reasons, and one of them being they just may not understand it or it may not  be realistic to them.

What do you do?

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Aug 02

Conflicted Decision– What To Do?

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What do we do when our calling is not what others view as successful or traditional. I love it, but I failed in trying to live up to this article at one point in my life. I will say that once I realized this, I started living it; therefore I can write it about it now. 

A few weeks ago, while being conflicted over some decisions I had to make about my future, a friend of mine told me a story about Mother Teresa. I don’t remember exactly word for word, but what I took away from that story was, Mother Teresa lived a giving life, a caring life, and even after he death, she had critics. 

Regardless of what you do, there will always one or more people who will find fault in what you do. I have a question for you, this career path, this personal life making decision that you are dealing with— will it have a positive ripple effect? Does it conflict with your moral and ethical values? Will it enhance your lifestyle? These are just a few suggested questions to ask yourself when dealing with the decisions you have to make. 

It is hard for others to share your vision and understand your passion. It doesn’t matter who you are, we are all given one life to live and experience. Think in the moving forward mode and focus on that one thing. You will be surprised at the opportunities that await you.

Stay blessed. 

Aug 02

Conflicting Decisions– What To do?

What do we do when our calling is not what others view as successful or traditional. I love it, but I failed in trying to live up to this article at one point in my life. I will say that once I realized this, I started living it; therefore I can write it about it now. 

A few weeks ago, while being conflicted over some decisions I had to make about my future, a friend of mine told me a story about Mother Teresa. I don’t remember exactly word for word, but what I took away from that story was, Mother Teresa lived a giving life, a caring life, and even after he death, she had critics. 

Regardless of what you do, there will always one or more people who will find fault in what you do. I have a question for you, this career path, this personal life making decision that you are dealing with— will it have a positive ripple effect? Does it conflict with your moral and ethical values? Will it enhance your lifestyle? These are just a few suggested questions to ask yourself when dealing with the decisions you have to make. 

It is hard for others to share your vision and understand your passion. It doesn’t matter who you are, we are all given one life to live and experience. Think in the moving forward mode and focus on that one thing. You will be surprised at the opportunities that await you.

Stay blessed. 

Jul 08

WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?

There will be moments in your life where you come to realize your strengths. In whatever it is that you are doing in that moment you will probably say to yourself “This is so me”, “This is who I am” and you actually feel this surge of excitement running through your body. Amazing. If you have felt this then you know what I mean. There might this inner voice telling you “This is you! wouldn’t you like to do this for the rest of your life?” Read the rest of this entry »

Jul 07

Others Strengths and Weaknesses

Recently I had the opportunity to speak about a topic that means a lot to me. It was about what does a person do when they are following their calling. Side note: figuring out your calling is definitely a topic I will write about separately. Regardless of where you are in life, this might be a good read for you especially since you are headed towards finding your calling, your purpose. 

What I focused on was once we come into our calling, things start to make sense and fall into place. No longer are we our old self but a new self, a motivated self, an individual who is making a difference when and where we can through the platform we are given. Sounds about right?

Well here’s the thing, it’s at this point some people may become arrogant and start to disregard others and not help them see they may be good at. We might pass up an opportunity to help someone realize their own strength and weaknesses.

 When we come into our calling doesn’t it make sense to encourage and motivate people to find their own calling? This doesn’t necessarily mean that you are required to layout a detailed blue print of what they should do, but encourage them to explore and find out their strengths and weaknesses. 

Besides, someone along your life path probably encouraged you and made you see something in yourself that you probably did not see before. 

 

How are you helping people come into their calling? 

May 20

Procrastination or Making a Plan?

One of the main reasons people are upset about how their life turned out is because they set aside what they really want to do in life.  If you take a good look at your situation now ask yourself what is holding you back from taking 10 minutes out of your day to do something that will only enhance your life. When you enhance your life, aren’t you also enhancing others’ life? Let’s move forward just a bit.

Now we have someone who is has this passion to build a platform (you decide what your platform is) and what is the next step? This is where a lot of us spend time lagging. It’s actually procrastination, but your response will be “I’m thinking of a strategy” or “I”m going to start this weekend when I get away to a coffee shop and just think” or you are one of those who likes to talk about what you do and that’s good enough.

It doesn’t matter the reason if you are covering up procrastination with an excuse you will know it. When you realize that is what you are doing then you need to ask yourself “is this something that I really want to work toward?” If it is, then you will take the initiative  to make things happen. Your “free-time” will be dedicated to turning your dream into a reality.

While I don’t have a lot of time to watch television, I do like  the show “Shark Tank”. This isn’t a promotion for that show, but I like watching this show because you get to hear different people talk about their new product and their dreams. You can easily decipher between someone who is a dreamer and someone who is working to turn their dream into a reality. The other thing I do is, I read about different entrepreneurs. You never hear of a successful entrepreneur say “Yeah I sleep till 10 and then I work on my vision”. You hear them say “When I got home from work, I took care of my family, and then I would spend a minimum of at least an hour working to see how I can make this work”. The put the time and effort into making things happen. These are the movers and shakers.

Side note: At the same time, not all hobbies and passion are meant to be turned into a career. Yeah I’ll say it. There are people who love being in plays, but they have no desire to become a superstar in that industry. I will say to those people you still fall in this category. Find things that you enjoy so you can take your mind off of everyday stress.

Couple of questions:

At the end of the day, who is responsible in making sure you succeed? Who is responsible in understanding your vision and what you want in life?

 

Move forward people. Don’t stay in the same place. Make a positive difference while you are at it.

Jan 17

DEAD END?

If you look at your current lifestyle, maybe you are where you wanted to be. What else is there? What else is there left to conquer? Achieve? You just can not think of anything that you could do to enhance your own life.

Maybe that is just it. Everything you have been building, you built for yourself, your family, your circle of close friends, and that is it. I will be the first to tell you that I do not have a problem with people wanting better for themselves. I think it’s important that you establish the lifestyle you want for yourself (and family) because you are creating opportunities for the future. Oh wait- that’s it, right? Your goal is not just about self accomplishment but it’s about creating opportunities for those around you and down the future. Your goals for a better life is not only about making your life better but looking to the side and creating ways for your fellow brother/sister to also have some opportunities to make their life better. 

When I speak about creating opportunities, sometimes people assume it’s only towards people who make the big bucks. No not really, you are wrong. It’s about the time we invest in creating ways to donate via clothing, monetary, our time invested in helping a child see that he or she has an opportunity to break out of a bad cycle. 

We are taught to give, but sometimes we get so absorbed into our life that we forget there is always someone that has less than us. You want to feel good about yourself? You want to believe that you have more to life than what you have now? Give, create, help where you can. You will be surprised how many doors open. 

 

 

Jan 15

What’s Holding You Back?

Someone once told me this story and it stuck with me. I hope that it makes an impact on you the way it did for me. 

“One day all the employees reached the office and saw a big advice written on the door.

Yesterday the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. You are invited to join the funeral.

In the beginning, they got sad for the death of one of their colleagues, but after a while they got curious to know who was the man who hindered their growth.

Everyone thought: Well atleast the man who hindered my progress died!

One by one the thrilled employees got closer to the coffin, and when they looked inside they were speechless. They stood shocked in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul. There was a mirror inside the coffin and everyone who looked inside could see himself. 

There was a sign next to the mirror that read:
There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth…It is you. You are the only person who can influence your your happiness, success and realization.

Your life does not change when your boss friends or company change…..your life changes when you change…you go beyond your limiting beliefs and you realize you are the only one responsible for your life.
Its the way you face life that makes the difference!

If an egg is broken from outside force….life ends but it is broken from inside force life begins. Great things always begin from our inside.”

Jan 01

A New Year. New Opportunities

The excitement of a new year brings new opportunities, new friendships/relationship(s), the new list of future accomplishments,  and many more.  Making a list of what we would like to accomplish gives us this great feeling that this is year that we will get these things done and greater things will come our way. 

I do have a suggestion, whether you are making or a list of not, if there is one or more goals that you would like achieve this year, then I suggest adding a couple of actual steps to it as well and assign dates. Be realistic to your situation and your schedule. One of the biggest reasons why people push their goals off and never achieve is because they underestimate the amount of time and work need to go into achieving that specific goal. 

It is also one of the reasons why half way through the year, some begin to not care (if they don’t already) and some may try to work on the goal again, but give up. 

2014 has every opportunity to be a greater year than the year before. I wrote a post awhile back on another blog that our current situation is not permanent.  Some may have it good while others may not, both sides should always work towards making their life better than before. It is easy to get discouraged, but hold on strong to your faith and believe that 2014 will be one of the greatest years ever. 

Wishing you all a beautiful and Happy New Year!

 

Libby 

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